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如果你真的需要什么理由一万个够不够?

2008-11-18T00:48:00.003+08:00

This posts will be mainly addressed to men. Here the most typical mistakes that men commit in communication with women are presented. Sometimes the reaction of women on this/that situation is interpreted incorrectly by men, so that the response reaction can be inadequate as well, leading to total destruction of relationships.

Emotionally adequate communication: generally women’s behavior is more emotional than men’s. Though the most emotional women are sometimes simply not quite self-confident, every woman wants her man to talk to her in common language of emotions. Men hardly use female language, this gap in communication provokes most of acute problems and conflicts. Imagine a casual conversation between man and woman:

She: How do you feel?
He: I’m ok.
She: No, how do you feel really?
He: I don’t know how I feel. You always ask the same question and get the same answer.
She: But why you don’t know? You should know how you feel.
He: I don’t think so much about feelings.
She: But I want to know what you feel about us and all other things.
He: I am fine, really.
She; It can’t be called like fine.
He: Listen here, don’t tell me what I feel and what I should feel.
She begins to cry.

So what has really happened? Actually a woman wanted to help the man, to make him feel comfortable, and in reality she made him think about what he got used to hide – his feelings, that’s why he behaved in a hostile way. Eventually all men will consider the behavior of the man in this situation quite normal and reasonable.

So if a man wants to become proficient in emotional aspect, it is important to learn to understand your feelings: Most anthropologists say that people usually feel the following emotions:

Happiness
Fear
Fury
Love
Sorrow
Doubt
Compassion
Boredom
Disgust

You can learn how to express your feelings doing one simple exercise: concentrate and try to remember how you perceive this or that emotion, then try to express it through the sound: love arises soft sound, disgust – sharp, fury – growling. The more often you do the exercise, the faster you will be able to express your feelings in a proper manner.

Stop blaming each other: Even if you suppose that woman makes you feel uncomfortable, asking about your emotions she is striving to be closer to you; if you behave aggressively she may think that she is the reason for problems and irritation.

First – compassion – then help: Imagine your woman comes to you and complains, that she had an unpleasant talk with her boss in the morning because she was late - what will you ask after that? First of all, you will ask how many minutes she was late for, then advise how to behave in order to avoid such situations in future… you will hardly tell that you understand her and share her feelings. But that is the reaction she is waiting for! Remember to begin with compassion, and only then mildly advise her how to get out of the situation.

You can make her become better: Sometimes men face the strong desire to make their women better either physically or morally. It is a dangerous step to take, you will hardly achieve the success if you put pressure on her. Only if she asks for your opinion about her appearance, express your opinion carefully.

Remember about the force of compliments: tell them sincerely, moreover it is such an easy and available way to make her happy!

Who is the head? Of course you are, a man, but when you ask for a favor, include into your speech such polite phrases like: “ My dear, could you please”, “ Will you be so kind”, “ and address her like” Dear”, “ Darling’, “ Honey’, “ Sweetheart”- you will get even more than you have asked for.

Demand for intimacy: imagine that you live with a woman, she wants to be near and to share all the moments of your life. Is it too much for you? In her childhood a woman had a best friend, and now she wants her partner to be her all. That is why your desire to spend Saturday night with your friend in the bar, drinking beer and chattering, she would consider like betrayal.

And finally some more useful advice in brief: when you speak with a woman, try to involve her into conversation, listen to her and respect her opinion.

Remember – it is a dialogue, not a soliloquy.
When you talk to her, look into her eyes, don’t examine her figure or revert the eyes, otherwise she will think that you are absolutely not interested in communication with her.

This piece of advice will probably ease your life and help to build strong and confidential relations with your partners.

Frequently, people hold inside negative attitude towards their partners of the opposite sex, due to painful recollections of relationship problem between their parents. One might introduce one-time negative experience to his/her now relationships. Envy would arouse emulative spirit and lead to desire of manipulating your partner, instead of admiring and supporting him/her. Lack of mutual respect and self-reliance results in our willingness to be smitten with love for .bad. guys and girls. Having analyzed signs and reasons of relationship problem, move forward to it.s settling.

Concentrate on your relationship problem, don.t halt half way through. One would better mind his/her words and intonation in communication with someone he/she loves. Refrain from making offensive remarks, don.t threaten each other. You should tender an apology if wrong. Try to solve a relationship problem with the aid of letting out your true feelings. Never abuse or torture your partner in any way. Avoid meeting those encounters, who force you to act in a nasty manner. Make an effort to look at relationship problem from another angle. One should always keep in mind the article he/she has read to prevent relations from anger and resentment.

*There will always be a salution, all you need to do is to find it. And you can find it yourself.

careless whisper...

2008-11-10T02:17:00.001+08:00

Let's start with something nice....

A boy asks his father, "Dad, is it OK for us guys to notice all the different kind of boobs?" Surprised, the father answers, "Well, sure son, we wouldn't be normal if we didn't...there are all kinds of breasts...depending on a woman's age - in her twenties, a woman's breasts are like melons, round and firm. In her thirties to forties, they are like pears, still nice but hanging a bit. After fifty, they are like onions." "Onions, Dad?" "Yeah, you see them and they make you cry...."

Not to be outdone, his sister asks her mother, "Mom, how many kind of weenies are there?" The mother, delighted to have equal time, answers, "Well, daughter, a man goes through three phases. In a man's twenties, a man's weenie is like an oak, mighty and hard. In his thirties and forties, it is like a birch, flexible but reliable. After his fifties, it is like a christmas tree." "A Christmas tree?" "Yep, dried up and the balls are only there for decoration"

Oak = Something made of this wood.

A very funny equations i've made up.

Conclusion 1.

Human = Eat + Sleep + Work + Play
Pig = Eat + Sleep
Human = Pig + Work + Play
Human - Play = Pig + Work

*Human that don’t play equals to a pig that knows how to work.

Conclusion 2

Man = Eat + Sleep + Earn Money
Man - Earn Money = Eat + Sleep
Man - Earn Money = Pig

*Man that don’t know how to earn moey equals to pig.

Conclusion 3

Woman = Eat + Sleep + Spend Money
Woman - Spend Money = Eat + Sleep
Woman - Spend Money = Pig

*Woman that don’t know how to spend money equals to pig

Conclusion 4

Man = Eat + Sleep + Earn Money
Woman = Eat + Sleep + Spend Money
Man + Woman = Eat + Sleep + Earn Money + Eat + Sleep + Spend Money
since Earn Money + Spend Money = 0,
Man + Woman = (Eat + Sleep) + (Eat + Sleep)
Man + Woman = Pig + Pig

*Man + Woman = 2 Pigs.

**And so, we are all pigs. :P

Hope you guys had enjoy my post.. =3

I knew I loved you.

2008-10-30T23:58:00.000+08:00

When you love someone, you'll do anything.

You'll do all the crazy things that you cant explain.

You'll deny the truth, believe all lies.

You'd give it everything you got and you wont think twice.

Youid risk it all, no matter what may come.

When we are in a R/S we don't really rmb who are our parents our friends and family. We feel he or she is the whole world, universe, you life and your everything. We even quarrel with our bestest best buddy over a small problem over that guy or lady you are dating. So good luck guys! make things clear before acting..

The best things in life – success, happiness, love – depend on our ability to create and maintain great relationships. Most of us do a good job with relationships at the start, only to stumble down the road. Why do relationships develop such challenging problems? The best things in life – success, happiness, love – depend on our ability to create and maintain great relationships. Most of us do a good job with relationships at the start, only to stumble down the road. Why do relationships develop such challenging problems?

Have you ever been cursed in the choicest language by someone you love dearly? Should one suffer from such a treatment, he would experience serious relationship problem. Strange though it may seem, the one you have a soft spot for, might be able to make your whole world turn upside down; he/she doesn.t let you show your worth; he/she makes your relations as painful as possible. That is called the phenomenon of .toxic relationship..

If one would like to find out whether his/her relationships with partner are toxic, he/she should try to answer the following questions below: If one would like to find out whether his/her relationships with partner are toxic, he/she should try to answer the following questions below:

Do you often meet a relationship problem of taking offence at your partner for his criticizing or reproaching you in aggressive tone of voice?
Are you vulnerable to emotional and physical stress with your partner?
Do you feel sad and depressed, while communicating with him/her?
Have you ever had an aversion for sexual contacts with your partner?
Do you often burst into sudden rage when you spend time together?
Do you feel a sense of relief when your date is over?
Have you ever had an intention to break up with your present lover?
Have you ever experienced or used physical violence towards him/her?

***Do you have a relationship problem of not being able to live at your full potential with your partner? In case, if the overwhelming majority of your answers are positive, you need to admit to have entered into toxic relationship. It.s up to you, whether to put an end or to try to work the relationship problem out. Having made your choice in favor of fight against toxic relationship, try to single out possible sources of this relationship problem.

Problem is nothing, nothing is also a problem. So make sure whats the problem is and solve it the best way and let "nothing" happens in all the "problems".

Wishing all love birds out there, forever happiness and god bless you guys. =3

And soon, this old world will seem brand new..

2008-10-29T01:01:00.000+08:00

Life greatest 14..

Life's greatest enemy is oneself
Life's greatest failure is arrogant.
Life's greatest ignorance is dupe.
Life's greatest sorrow is jealousy.
Life's greatest erroneous is self-abandon.
Life's greatest sin is to deceive oneself.
Life's greatest pitiable disposition is self-abased.
Life's greatest admiration is choice of advancing.
Life's greatest insolvent is despair.
Life's greatest wealth is healthiness.
Life's greatest liabilities is a debt of human sympathy.
Life's greatest gift is forgiveness.
Life's greatest imperfection is melancholy wisdom.
Life's greatest gratification is alms.

"孝" I'm starting to understand this word. Many might think it's just a simple chinese word. But to me, it's a very powerful word. =3

"孝" FILIAL PIETY. : While parents are alive, one must not travel afar. If one must, one's whereabouts always be made known.

I tried to called, but my pride won't me dial..

2008-10-19T22:50:00.000+08:00

How should i start? ... ... ... ... ... ... *DING DING DING! MONEY NOT ENOUGH! REALLY REALLY NOT ENOUGH!!!!!! no money coming in.. eating grass this whole month! OH GOD! please let me TIO BAY PIO! TOTO WILL BE BETTER! money is veri impt in out everyday life.. and also everything u do.. anything u wanna do.. going anywhere.. wanted to go anywhere.. all talks about money.. well, wat to do.. "REALITY" even making friends talks about money. its wat i've expriance. all the bills are killing me! pay this pay tat, pay untill i need to go find go and pray.. was thinking of selling my iphone.. but omg. BU SER DE!!!! called polin, he told mi not tell sell.. cos this phone is realli realli realli too nice to use liao he advice not to sell.. well, i myself also bu ser de lo.. anyways i cant wait till sat! WE'RE going to PHUTURE AND ZOUK! long island tea! vodka red bull, vodka raspberry and screw driver! OMG! i'm gonna get myself FUCKING DRUNK! making myself drunk is the best way of reduicing STRESS!! *for me **small kids, plesese don not follow wat i'm doing. =3 tats all folks, have a good night rest and get DEAD DRUNKENS! =D

Guess whos' back, back again. =D

2008-10-16T02:20:00.000+08:00

Time to update my dairy le. It has been so dead seens... well, i can't even rmb le. =3 Business was sucks for the past 2 weeks. Nothing to do, Staying at home, Going over to relatives' house. posting Ad on mocca, news papper. BUT! it dosen seem to work. had been eating gress this few weeks. Eat untill wan turn into a goat liao. -.- Money means alot to me, cos i believe when u got money, u got friends, power, and "brothers" so wat if u have a 10+ years of friendship? if u think they are pulling u back from wat u gonna do. just let them go, think for the long run, and not the present. As in power, ur the boss controling ppl from doing their job. and when i grow up, i wan to be a boss =D brothers? nah.. bull bull bull.. bullshit.. but i know afew who are i think i can be with for the long run. other them my family, they are also part of my life. Ice, Tan, liew etc. **well u guys know who u are.. lazy to type.** =3 Oh ya! i've learn sth nice 2 days ago, here we go, "Love starts with a smile, grow with a kiss and ends with a tear. BUT! friendship starts with eyes, grows with an understanding and ends with DEATH!!!" nice right? BUT, also must make sure that u are seeing someone who u can realli trust and believe, if not.. better to have lesser contact wtih "those" kind of ppl. =D tats all peeps... see you guys soon =D